What ‘Cuckolding’ is About: The Sexual Practice That Gives Infidelity the Green Light

The sexual fetish of a woman telling her partner about her extramarital relationships is growing daily all over the world. The psychological background is hidden behind the trend.

There is a trend that is growing and expanding daily that is attracting attention. Its name is “cuckolding.” Infidelity is seen as one of the most serious situations in a couple. In fact, until not many years ago, adultery was judicially penalized in some countries. The act of having relations with a third party implies a betrayal in the couple, to the point of being—in certain cases—a cause for separation.

However, there is a trend that is growing and expanding daily that is attracting attention. Its name is “cuckolding” and it comes from the English equivalent of “to cheat on” (literally, “to put horns on”). What began as a sexual preference specific to a small niche, whose participants were pointed at almost as “perverts,” has transformed into a massive phenomenon.

The peculiar modality consists of a woman—married or in a relationship—having sexual relations with another man and then telling her boyfriend or husband the experience she had in detail. Presumably, after the account, the flame of passion in the couple is re-ignited with great intensity.

Cuckolding is a variable of open relationships and consists of having relations with third parties and recounting the experience, sometimes with details. Generally, open couples agree that they can have relations with others, but there are certain guidelines that must be met: that the relations outside the couple are purely sexual (unlike polyamory), that the details of the encounter are not shared, and that care is taken with prophylactics. In cuckolding, couples meet and share their sexual exchange experiences online.

Couples meet and share their experiences online. Forums and communities dedicated to the partner-swapping modality have grown exponentially in recent years. For example, searches for the topic on Google have doubled in the last 12 years. Even Reddit, the social bookmarking and news website, has provided a space for cuckolding. That doesn’t even include the plethora of cuckolding content flooding the internet today, such as these ebony cheating porn movies.

In open relationships, it is fantasy that completes the story, dispensing with the real account. In cuckolding, the discourse is centered on what the sexual experience with the third party was like, and the story itself and the fantasy are sources of excitement. Of course, any experience of this caliber subverts and questions monogamy, but it also challenges the stable bond to be respectful of the agreement so as not to fall into the transgression of an unfaithful act.

It is essential, then, to make it clear that being protagonists of cuckolding aims to achieve high levels of excitement with other people, but jealousy, reproaches, or any other complaint should not appear at all. In any case, if the practice brings more problems than benefits, the couple will have to decide how to proceed or end cuckolding.

In open relationships, it is fantasy that completes the story, dispensing with the real account. In cuckolding, the discourse is centered on what the sexual experience with the third party was like, and the story itself and the fantasy are sources of excitement.

Currently, the fetish sparks great interest among psychology professionals. They wonder what leads men to enjoy watching their partners in a sexual relationship with another or having such an experience recounted to them. Some theories—the most radical ones—explain it through presumed repressed bisexuality; others, that it depends on the pride of being free that men feel once cuckolding is concretized. It is essential to understand that what could be humiliating to imagine a wife having sex with another man can be transformed into something that is not humiliating at all, but something tremendously erotic.